Finally, I can’t ignore the fact that the publisher did an outstanding job with the novel. It was well promoted, it had a beautiful cover, and it was enthusiastically supported by the sales representatives. In addition, I was sent on a fifty-city tour （unusually large, by the way） and that also helped get the word out.
Q. The Notebook is an intensely romantic book—a novel about the everlasting power of “true love.” Do you believe that this kind of love exists in real life?
A. Yes, absolutely. True love exists and there’s evidence of it every day. I think talking about romantic love, however, is similar to talking about schools for children. It seems that most people feel that the school their child goes to is wonderful, but elsewhere, schools are terrible. But if most people feel that way, then it becomes a contradiction. Same thing with romantic love. People feel it in their own lives, but doubt if other people do. And those who don’t have it hope that someday they will. I think The Notebook tapped into that feeling.
Q. The Notebook takes place in a small southern town. Why did you choose that setting rather than, say, a big city like New York?
A. I live in a small southern town, and life there is different than in a big city. Last night, for instance, a friend of mine got hurt. Instead of bringing him to the hospital or an urgent care clinic, I took him to the doctor’s house. The doctor took care of him, then drove to the office to pick up a temporary cast, returned, and then bandaged him up. No charge, by the way.
Small towns feed into a nostalgia that people have for the way things used to be. Simpler, less rushed, more community oriented, things like that.
Q. The book details the lives of very old, as well as very young, people. How did someone as young as yourself acquire the insight to write about the experience of being old in such a moving way?
A. That’s what writers strive to do. Though I can’t describe the process of writing and how I do it （I don’t really understand where my ideas come from）， I do keep a few general rules in mind, no matter what type of character I’m writing.
First, I tend to assume that most people— male or female, young or old—have largely the same types of thoughts. However, the difference lies in their perspective. So I try to put myself in their shoes and see the world the way they do. Then, I read constantly and see how other authors have written from varying perspectives, and I try to figure out whether they accomplished what they’d set out to do, or if they failed. Either way, I ask myself, “Why?” Finally, I work hard at it—I edit constantly, until it “feels right” to me. Only then will I accept it.
Q. Letter writing plays such a big part in The Notebook. Is there something about letter writing that intrigues you?
A. The epistolary form of writing has been around for centuries, of course. I’m neither the first nor the finest to use it. But letters are a wonderful vehicle for writing, if used effectively and sparingly. In the case of a novel written primarily in third person, for instance, a letter might allow for deeper insight, since a letter is written in first person.
Also, I’m fond of letter writing myself. Call it old-fashioned, but that’s how my wife and I fell in love. We lived a thousand miles apart in the early stages of our relationship, and I used to write her every day. She’s told me often that it was the most romantic thing that had ever been done for her.
Q. How has the success of The Notebook affected your life? Do you find that your family lifestyle has changed much? Or your values?
A. The success has been wonderful. It’s enabled me to concentrate on writing full-time, but more than that, it’s allowed me to spend far more time with my family. Financially, of course, there’s been a change as well and it would be dishonest of me to overlook that.
But other than that, our lifestyle is still largely unchanged. I coach soccer for my sons’ teams, we go to church every Sunday, we’re in a “Supper Club” with the same people we knew before, my wife volunteers at the school like every other mom, we still eat Kraft Macaroni and Cheese.
Nor have our values changed. We worry about the same things all parents do, and we’re doing our best to raise kind and confident children. Our relationship with each other, with our children, with our community, and with God will always be the most important things in our lives.
Q. What was it like going on your author tour and meeting and hearing from so many people whose lives were affected by your book?
A. That was truly wonderful. Writing is communication; so is talking to readers about their impressions of the novel. It’s one of the aspects I most enjoy about being an author.