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The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward(24)

Author:Daniel H. Pink

Aesop’s preferred explanatory tool was the parable, but we can convey the point with equal clarity using a simple chart:

Temporal discounting

The grasshopper prized fiddling in the moment more than eating in the future. The Alberta woman valued gratification in youth more than health and satisfaction in maturity. Jason Drent says his early paychecks made him feel so “invincible” that they blinded his view into the distance.

In both the American Regret Project and the World Regret Survey, respondents described their experience of temporal discounting with the language of early excess. A thirty-one-year-old man from Arkansas said:

I drank way too much in my early twenties. Got a DWI. Derailed my plans to join the military.

A forty-five-year-old woman in Ireland:

I didn’t look after myself when I was younger. I drank and smoked too much and slept with too many guys.

A forty-nine-year-old Virginia man:

I regret that I did not take my college years more seriously. Rather than thinking of the future, I spent too much time enjoying the present.

To identify a foundation regret in yourself or in others, listen for the words “too much”—whether they attach to consuming alcohol, playing video games, watching television, spending money, or any other activity whose immediate lure exceeds its lasting value. Then listen for the words “too little”—whether they describe studying in school, setting aside cash, practicing a sport or musical instrument, or any other undertaking that requires steady commitment. One study of college athletes, for example, found that their greatest regrets centered on too much eating and too little sleep and training.[2]

Temporal discounting is only the beginning, because this deep structure category involves a second time-based issue. Some regrets deliver their pain immediately. If I race my car down the street well above the speed limit and collide with another vehicle, the consequences of the decision, and therefore my regret, are instantaneous. A totaled vehicle, an aching back, a lost day. But foundation regrets don’t arrive with the sound and fury of a collision. They proceed at a different pace.

In chapter 13 of Ernest Hemingway’s 1926 novel The Sun Also Rises, a few of protagonist Jake Barnes’s expatriate friends arrive in Pamplona, Spain, and meet for a drink. During the conversation, Mike Campbell, a Scotsman, discloses his recent bankruptcy.

“How did you go bankrupt?” American Bill Gorton asks him.

“Two ways,” Campbell replies. “Gradually and then suddenly.”[3]

That’s also how people discover their foundation regrets. Many individual health, education, or financial missteps are not themselves immediately devastating. But the slowly building force of all those poor decisions can arrive like a tornado—gradually and then suddenly. By the time we realize what’s happening, there’s not much we can do.

Once again, people used similar language to describe regrets whose consequences they understood too late. A sixty-one-year-old Florida man, unintentionally channeling Hemingway’s laconic style, wrote:

Not saving money from an earlier age. Compound interest.

A forty-six-year-old Australian said:

I should have selected different subjects and worked harder earlier in my life to obtain the compounding benefits throughout life.

A thirty-three-year-old Michigan man:

I regret that I didn’t appreciate reading earlier in life. Now I see the value of reading and often wonder what the compounding effect would have been if I had started ten to fifteen years earlier.

Compounding. It’s a powerful concept, but one our grasshopper minds struggle to comprehend.

Suppose I offered you a choice—$1 million in cash today or one penny that will double in value every day for a month. Most people, experimental evidence shows, would opt for the million bucks.[4] And during the first three and a half weeks of our pact, that decision would seem wise. But after just a little more time—on day thirty—that penny would become more than $5 million. We can explain the power of compounding with another chart, which you’ll notice is essentially the mirror image of its predecessor.

Compounding interest

If you invest $10,000 at a 5 percent compounding interest rate, you’ll have an extra $500 after one year. After ten years, you’ll have made nearly $6,500. After twenty years, you’ll almost triple your money. But after thirty years, your stake will be worth over $44,600—more than quadruple what you started with. In the short run, the interest on money you’ve borrowed or saved doesn’t add up to much. In the medium run, it accelerates. In the long run, it explodes. And the principle applies well beyond finance—because small choices about eating, exercising, studying, reading, and working produce explosive benefits or harms over time.

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